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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So I would take off my elite DCUM hat and say, you can have a family of 4 but you'll want to marry very, very young. You'll want to live in a town that isn't as expensive as here. If you pursue higher ed, realize that your partner will take on the vast majority of raising a family. Realize that many young marriages don't last past kid 2.

[b]Then also realize that a family of 4 might mean you actually had and lost 3 of 7 children you conceived. You might have a child with special medical issues that never leaves your home. You might have healthy children that never truly launch. You may have children that are drug addicts. You may have to take custody of one of your grandchildren. You may have all of this and your partner died 10 years prior like my Aunt.

The more kids you have the more real the possibilities that you have a lifelong commitment to thise kids. Unless you take the traditional Irish approach and tell them to F off when they turn 18. Not your problem.[/b][/quote]

I agree with all of this.  I wouldn't emphasize that they need to marry young, and instead I would emphasize that they need to ensure that they have an extremely strong relationship with their spouse. They can't be one of those couples that has a lot of drama when they are unmarried and childless, who thinks that the drama means "they can get through anything" (eyeroll).   I would tell my children that if they want to give their kids the same kind of childhood they experienced (nice but modest home in Potomac, well-regarded "W" public school, lots of after school activities, one trip a year by plane, lots of trips to the family beach house every summer, college paid for, etc.), they will need to make a LOT of money.  
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