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Reply to "Feeling hurt when other people fall apart over their elderly ailing parents while mine died young"
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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It might be normal, but it's also irrational and unproductive. People are going to grieve their parents, and it's not a competition. Their grief doesn't have anything to do with yours. They love their parents and they will be sad and struggle when they die. Again, it's not a competition or a zero-sum game. They have the right to be as sad as they feel. [/quote] This. I was 38 when my parents died within 6 months of each other. They were 66 and 69. I was in a bereavement group with a 70 yo lady who lost her 90yo mom and was worried she'd also lose her 95 yo dad. Talk about a mind f@ck. She was a grandmother and I had young kids. My kids will never know my parents, except through pictures and my stories. Anyway, I could see that her pain was as valid as mine, but she has the comfort of having had 70 years with her parents. Again, not a competition. Losing ones parents hurts, no matter how old you are.[/quote]
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