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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No advice, but your post made me realize that this has happened to my in laws.

I'm one of three girls and we all three prioritize Christmas Eve with our parents and then slot in when we'll see our respective in laws around that.

My husband is one of three boys, and in the 7 years we've been married there has never been a Christmas or Thanksgiving that he and his brothers are all there with his parents on the same day to celebrate. His brothers are also married or seriously committed and seem to similarly prioritize their partners' family of origin and then plan something with their own around that.

I don't maliciously or even consciously plot to do this, it's just that I'm the planer and my husband does not romanticize and love holidays the way I do. I'm doing what I already know and already love and he's happy to do whatever.

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Do you have sons? They are going to learn this model from you and you will not see them on holidays. [/quote]

NP. Nooooo, that's not the takeaway. The takeaway is, it's fine to be a planner, or not, but the planner will set the tone. If they care, they need to step up and plan. If they don't care...that's fine. [/quote]

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