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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I workout for myself. Period.  I grew up playing travel soccer very competitively, high school soccer and track, etc.  I was always used to training.  In my 20s/early 30s I ran many marathons, did Spin classes and prior to that every exercise fad--step aerobics:), Jane Fonda in the 80s, etc.  I love the feeling of exercise and so need it for my mental health.

Exercise to me is like brushing your teeth.  It's something that should be done every day (or almost every day).  My off days are yoga.

I have always worked full-time.  I have two teens and I'm 52 and my body is fit and my skin is clear.  Genetics have meant I never looked skinny and I was never skinny---I have more of a J-Lo or fit curvier body--but its more like Jennifer Aniston with age.

I like fashion and I like myself when I'm fit.  I'm not depressed.

I am aging very well and have modeled good habits for my teen sons.

For women, in particular, I think athletics as kids/teens is so important.  I knew the way inside and out of a weight room and what pushing yourself to the limits and be mentally tough from that.  Some people never learn that and have a hard time picking up exercise for the first time in middle age.[/quote]

So you’re type A, without saying you’re Type A[/quote]

Ha. You know it's funny.  I'm very lazy about everything else.  I'm not a great at cleaning/keeping the house my husband does that.  It takes a lot to get me motivated in other areas of life.  Yet with grades in school and exercise I leaned towards type A...every single other thing I am a huge type B.  I was awful on maternity leaves without structure...making a call to schedule an appointment seemed over-whelming.  I need a lot of structure in my life.  I guess exercise provides some of that.

But, you wouldn't call be type A if you met me outwardly.   [/quote]

Self reflection would be helpful.[/quote]

Lol. I do that when I'm running.  It clears the mind and I'm able to hash out things in my head.  It is absolutely the best time to self-reflect.  It got me through my dad's terminal illness and a stressful work situation.[/quote]

Okay so reflect on this.

OP asked I feel comfortable at 160 but my h wants me to be 140, shoikd I lose weight for him or be the weight I feel best at.

But you explained your extreme Type A way to lose weight and stay fit (which comes to find out is the way you deal with stress and anxiety).

Why did u feel the need to share that when it was not asked. (hint: it has to do with needing to say out loud somewhere how proud of yourself you are in this area even if it doesn’t help OP. Even if you are useless in the household, you’ve got your fit on)

Just think about that.[/quote]

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