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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What grade is your DD in? Is she new to the school? Does she generally have trouble making friends?

Last year my DD had no friends and often ate lunch alone. Which was new for her as she used to make friends easily. We finally figured out she had debilitating anxiety. Now after therapy and Prozac she has tons of friends and often invites the loner kids to eat with them because she remembers how it felt.

DS is on the spectrum and never made friends easily. He often eats alone but recently made a couple friends that he now eats with.[/quote]

How did you help your children get out of their shells and manage to join others to eat?[/quote]

Both are on anxiety medication and in therapy to manage anxiety.

DD is naturally social. Once we got the anxiety under control she made lots of friends and eats with them or asks other kids to join her for lunch. She loves to talk and be around people.

DS is on the spectrum and introverted. We hired a social skills coach who helps him since he’s completely clueless about social norms. A lot of role play and practice. He’s really come a long way and now has a couple kids he regularly eats lunch with.[/quote]

Can I ask how you find a proper social skills coach/group?  My son is an introvert, probably slightly on the spectrum but just more shy.  Covid definitely doesn't help the social scene.  We have tried some of the social groups, but never found a group that truly matched him.  He has pretty good social skills in general if he just talks.[/quote]

PP here. We used Social Grace LLC in Arlington.[/quote]

Not the PP but thank you, I have a HS jr DS that eats alone most days. He claims he’s fine with it but I don’t know if that’s true or not. Sometimes I wonder if he could be slightly on the spectrum also (what would that look like?) but mostly I think he’s shy and got a bad start to HS during the pandemic. He’s not unhappy unlike OP’s DD which is mostly good but also bad (less interested in working to change things). [/quote]

Does your DS understand social cues and is able to navigate social situations? Does he have good social skills? Does he have varied interests? If yes to all of these then he’s probably not on the spectrum and maybe an extreme introvert or social anxiety.[/quote]

Thanks for those ideas. I guess I’m not sure. DS comes off perfectly normally in social situations, just quiet. He does have varied interests and is a good student involved in school activities. He had a small but nice friend group through middle school but they sort of drifted during Covid, a few moved, etc and he’s never found a group in HS. He talks to kids in classes and so on but has no real friends at the moment. What I find odd is that it doesn’t seem to bother him. [/quote]

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