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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Get housekeeping help.

[b]We have someone come 3 days per week, 8 hrs per day who does laundry, grocery shops, organizes, dinner prep, etc - this is in addition to weekly cleaners.

Your weekends will open up, as will evenings. And you can still keep your Sunday sitter to give yourself some time for yourself. [/b]

Op, I wrote a thread recently about quitting because I just feel overwhelmed by therapies for my kids, my work, and managing everything. DH works aml the time (I’m not complaining, I appreciate that his salary means we can pay for therapies not covered by insurance). I like my job but there is no down time, even with the help. I haven’t quit yet because I am trying to figure out if quitting will really solve the problem of feeling overwhelmed, or if I will still have the problem but have lost a job I love. DH’s new income will start in February (allowing me to quit), so I’m waiting until it’s locked in to make a final decision about my job.

If you say your child with SN will cling when you are home, does quitting your job mean that to get any break you will always need to be out of the house? That would not be relaxing to me.

In any case, wishing you the best. [/quote]

OP, I did quit my job, but think it's worth you trying these things first. In our case, school was not working and we needed someone to manage therapies so really a parent needed to do it and it was not going to be DH. But if it's the household things wearing you down outside of work, it's much easier to hire help for that than it is to hire reliable child care.

You could also try an hours reduction first, but when I went from "40 to 20 hours" in reality I went from 60 to 30 and lost all my benefits. It just wasn't worth it so I left. I did love my job and it made me sad, still does, but it saved me, and it was great for both my kids (SN and NT). My only hesitancy in telling you to just go for it is that I worry your DH, with his issues, might not stay reliably employed long term. I had a scare with my DH where I thought he may lose his job related to his mental health stuff. In the end he stabilized and it's fine now, but if we didn't have substantial investments I could draw from in a pinch I am not sure I would remain unemployed.

Anyway, you are amazing. You deserve whatever will make you happiest. And if I'm wrong about your DH and you want to quit, I think you should.[/quote]

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