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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Some of the complaints I see on DCUM are so crazy; it does seem like people expect perfect childhoods. I always just hope this isn’t real life, because otherwise we are all doomed for our kids to think of us as being terrible parents [b]despite pouring pretty much everything into it[/b].[/quote]

When you are looking whether or not somebody made a mistake or how good they were at something, how hard they tried doesn't need to be part of the conversation. My mom absolutely poured everything she had into us, and she was still a very bad parent. I love her and appreciate her, but her parenting gave me a life-long struggles. When you look at the impact of mistakes on children, your efforts are sort of irrelevant.

I think it's important to be gentle with *yourself* and not beat yourself up about mistakes. That doesn't do anybody any good. But doing your best doesn't mean the mistakes didn't happen. That can be a painful fact but once you acknowledge it you can just move forward and probably have a better relationship with your child. Yes, some adult children will never be satisfied and never take responsibility for their own lives, but there are so many people who say "just a simple apology would go a long way." [/quote]

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