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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Don't most of us have a sense of being wronged?  I don't think that's new.

I accept the general screw ups - we're all human - but the very bad behavior - affairs for example - it would be nice to at least get an acknowledgement that their choices had impacts on people besides themselves.[/quote]

Np, I am 45, and don't feel at all wronged by my parents. They were terrific people, and I am grateful that I had them. Perfect? Nope.

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Perhaps you had good parents and the PP didn't.

This website is full of people comparing and judging other people's parenting. But then whenever someone says "my parents were bad parents" posters jump all over them to be more grateful. Well guess what? Some of us had really terrible parents whose parenting you would judge very harshly.[/quote]

Nope. When an OP gives actual details that are objectively horrible, nobody jumps on them. When someone comes on to whine about something that makes their parents sound maybe 80% instead of 95% (thinking about the recent poster who was incensed her parents wanted to change the sheets after her visit), or [b]if they give no details so the assumption is that it's something petty, then yes, yes, they deservedly get jumped on[/b]. [/quote]

So you agree with PP. Even if they have bad parents, if they don't give a detailed explanation to justify their assessment, they deserve to get jumped on.

But then another thing happens: if you go into detail about why your parents were bad parents, you almost always get accused of being a drama llama and people still say you should be grateful, that you need to take accountability for your own life, etc. I think the only time there was a consensus that what my mom did was bad was when I said that I didn't think it was all that bad.

Maybe people on this website just like to disagree. Yeah, that's probably it. 
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