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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your Dad is paying for the twentysomethings because they are young, but not the grandkids (who presumably are even younger)?  Is that the case or are the grandkids not invited to the weekly dinners?

Weekly dinner sounds like a big time suck for a Grandpa who does not love his grandkids that much.  There might be better uses of your time.[/quote]

My husband's family has this dynamic and I think I get where you are coming from. You desperately want to feel the love from dad so you suck it up, yet feel resentful. Your dad is going to go along with stepmom to get along. I doubt confronting will do anything. You just have to find your comfort zone. Maybe it's seeing them less and doing these meals monthly. Maybe it's meeting for something less expensive. Maybe it's just meeting up with dad now and then. Play around with it and find that comfort zone where you can just enjoy the quality time and not feel sad or jealous or resentful. If dad guilt trips you say you enjoy seeing him, but you need to save money and the kids' schedules are getting busier or whatever.

Some say confront, but I don't think these conversations about how people spend their money usually go well. He is a big boy and knows what he is doing. You don't want to guilt trip him into paying for you, he should do that because it's rude not to when he pays for his other children. We can't change him so figure out how to change the situation so you can enjoy it.[/quote]

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