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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]1) Agree with the person who suggested seeing if you can get a nanny.

2) I'd give the husband an ultimatum - allow you to see other people or get a divorce. He's gone 6 months out of the year, he can (and probably is already without your consent) see other people then and you can too.[/quote]

Ooh it’s not about me wanting to see other people. I’d rather he support me in a decision to get cosmetic surgery to repair my abdominal wall from my c section or just have time to knit or sew a project.

Or not complain if I order $30 shampoo from Sephora.
Or if I want to get eyelash extensions.
Or complain if I want a night for myself. 
Or if my family wants to come visit and stay.
Or whine that I spend money on Botox.

I’d like to add we have a hefty savings account, zero debt aside from our mortgage and I work full time.[/quote]

Wait- are you trolling?[/quote]

Op here, no? What about that gives you the impression I’m trolling?

Anytime I want to do something for myself, like beauty treatments, it’s a big fight from him. It’s not about money. [/quote]

Well it's just that all the things you mention just sound kind of selfish or extreme- plastic surgery, eyelash extensions, botox, $30 shampoo, nights to yourself. Those would give my dh pause too, unless you were super high maintenance before kids as well.

I think that instead, you and your dh should set up amounts that are okay for you to spend. Discretionary income. [/quote]

You are seriously F-ed in the head if you think a woman taking care of herself is selfish. I'm NOT OP. [/quote]

Reasonable people wouldn’t consider elective cosmetic surgery and “eyelash extensions” to be “taking care of yourself.” Or $30 shampoo. Those are indulgences, not self-care.[/quote]

Really nice shampoo is absolutely self-care. If my DH questioned that purchase I’d go ballistic (well first I’d check him for a concussion).

I don’t know how much Botox costs but it can’t be much more than frequent hunting trips. And if eyelash extensions make her feel beautiful and happy, who are you to say that’s not self-care?[/quote]

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