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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]1) Agree with the person who suggested seeing if you can get a nanny.

2) I'd give the husband an ultimatum - allow you to see other people or get a divorce. He's gone 6 months out of the year, he can (and probably is already without your consent) see other people then and you can too.[/quote]

Ooh it’s not about me wanting to see other people. I’d rather he support me in a decision to get cosmetic surgery to repair my abdominal wall from my c section or just have time to knit or sew a project.

Or not complain if I order $30 shampoo from Sephora.
Or if I want to get eyelash extensions.
Or complain if I want a night for myself. 
Or if my family wants to come visit and stay.
Or whine that I spend money on Botox.

I’d like to add we have a hefty savings account, zero debt aside from our mortgage and I work full time.[/quote]

Wait- are you trolling?[/quote]

Op here, no? What about that gives you the impression I’m trolling?

Anytime I want to do something for myself, like beauty treatments, it’s a big fight from him. It’s not about money. [/quote]

Well it's just that all the things you mention just sound kind of selfish or extreme- plastic surgery, eyelash extensions, botox, $30 shampoo, nights to yourself. Those would give my dh pause too, unless you were super high maintenance before kids as well.

I think that instead, you and your dh should set up amounts that are okay for you to spend. Discretionary income. [/quote]

You are seriously F-ed in the head if you think a woman taking care of herself is selfish. I'm NOT OP. [/quote]

Absolutely NONE of the things she listed are needed for a woman to “take care of herself,” except for time alone or with family.[/quote]

Self care is a thing. Some people feel great doing yoga and for others, it's having a nice purse or eyelash extensions. I get a brazilian every month and some people would probably say that's unnecessary, but it makes me feel good. Everyone has a different self-care language. If OP's is beauty/pampering than who cares? Why is it less valid than her wanting to take a pilates class every day?[/quote]

It’s funny how easy it is to spot the not-married ones here. If my spouse claimed a right to spend money above our means on things because they “make him feel good” I’d laugh in his face. If you want to go into debt on eyelash extensions, don’t get married. [/quote]

I've been married for ten years and have three kids. Do you think it's easy to spot the stupid ones too? Because you seem pretty stupid. And the OP said she and her husband have no debt and live a comfortable lifestyle. I'm not going to dictate what the OP and her husband can afford and I don't think you are in a position to do that either.[/quote]

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