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[quote=Anonymous]Doing everything yourself is a trauma response.

You married a deadbeat bc you were used to doing everything alone thanks to your upbringing and the relationship that was modeled for you by your parents.

It sounds like you’re not doing anything for yourself? And perhaps battling depression?

Here’s what you need to do, in this order: 
-Get yourself into weekly therapy asap. You can do this on zoom from home while you’re parenting.
-Get out of the house on a regular basis. Hire a sitter once a week. If DH gets to have $$ outings, you can pay $50-100 for a sitter once or twice a week. 
-Read Fair Play by Eve Rodsky. Even better if you can have your husband read it too. 
-Delegate household tasks. Expect your husband to whine about it. You’ve (unintentionally) enabled his bad behavior for a long time. 
-Couples counseling. 
-Then reevaluate if you should stay in this relationship.

You have work to do on yourself and this relationship before you know if divorce is the best option. 
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