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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why can’t your nanny take the kids to the doctor? How sick are they? Where is your DH?

I have 3 kids and they were sick all the time when younger (also this fall has been rough). I only took them to the doctor when it was something unusual - and that usually happened at night and we had to go to urgent care or the ER. We were always told to follow up with our pediatrician but I used my own discretion.

I get being exhausted- no answers for that - it’s very stressful having sick kids who need soothing. And inevitably they don’t sleep well, so I don’t either.

I think you will be fine if the constant sick days don’t continue - that is you won’t get fired and hopefully this will be forgotten- but it won’t be if you don’t find a solution.

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Op here, the nanny doesn’t drive and her English is not great so doc appointments are out. She often comes with me to the appointments though, and that is a huge help as I can do emails while we wait and she entertains DD.

[b]One of my kids has SN, including epilepsy (and gets seizures when sick), so I feel we have to follow up with the doctors.[/b] I guess our pediatrician does tend to tell us to come in for every little thing and I go along with it.

The problem with my exhaustion is it’s the kind I can’t seem to rally through anymore. I’ll suck it up and push through my own sickness or sleep deprivation, only to spend 3 hours trying to write a simple email, or I’ll be on calls and just can’t remember even the simplest word. I can’t track what’s happened on anything from one day to the next, it’s like every day I’m trying to remember what’s going on with my projects because my memory is just not functional anymore.

I was able to just suck it up and power through on the past but I can’t anymore. I laid down on the floor of my office a few weeks ago at lunch to just close my eyes for 20 minutes and I woke up and it had been 3 hours!
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My kid also has epilepsy, a rare and catastrophic kind that is drug resistance. She has seizures routinely. We don’t have follow up appointments after every seizure. And many of our doctor appointments with her multiple neurologists are video or phone calls that our kid doesn’t need to be there in person for. You might be going to far more appointments than are necessary.

That said, the early diagnostic days were really really rough. I echo what others have said - talk to your managers about what’s going on and your need for a little flexibility until you figure out what your equilibrium is. You aren’t going to get fired. I’m a manager and workers dealing with health issues is par for the course. You would be surprised how frequently it comes up.

And absolutely proactively use your leave to nurture your own health. And prioritize sleep over everything. i’ve had phases where I went to bed as soon as my kid went down. And even in spite of everything that needed to get done, I would just tell myself over and over again that nothing was more important than sleep. Everything is harder if you’re not getting enough sleep.[/quote]

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