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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We can afford. One idea to take the $9000 (the merit) out of her bank account as a way of getting “skin in the game” 
She is not a partier, like at all. She is introverted and has a bad case of ADD. She did not take advantage of any of the supports in the school, or what they had to offer. In terms of accommodations, even though she was entitled to some like extended test time. She said socially, She loves it. [/quote]

OP, it's great that your DD is happy. I would keep encouraging her to get more supports for her ADD and take advantage of the supports others have mentioned like office hours, TA tutoring, etc.

What is her major? If it's a STEM major, Cs in those initial classes are not uncommon. However, if, after the Spring semester, things don't improve, make sure you really explore with her why she is struggling and whether she using every support available to her. If she is not, then perhaps a gap semester is in order.

I just went through this with my son, who wound up withdrawing his sophomore year. He has ADD and severe anxiety, and after having the end of high school entirely virtual, he can't seem to ask for help when he needs it. He is taking time to work on these issues to figure out how to deal with people before returning to college makes sense for him.[/quote]

Thank you. There are so many supports. I don’t even think she’s met her advisor! You can lead a horse to water…
Are you confident that your son will go back? How is he doing? What is he doing for friends? 
These are all questions I ask myself if my daughter did withdraw. [/quote]

Well, my son was not connecting in college, unlike your daughter, so that made our decision to withdraw easier. I am very concerned about social connections now that he is home, but he will be working at a retail job, so hopefully he will meet people there. He has siblings, and as a family, we have a decent social circle, so he will have some built-in connections. I am fairly confident that he will go back but was such a leap of faith to support his withdrawal. I'm not sure we could have supported the decision had I not spoken with his advisor and therapist and understood how lost he is. In retrospect, he was one of those kids for whom remote school was terrible.  During that year plus, he completed college coursework and got good grades, but he went from being a moderately anxious kid to being almost completely incapacitated by any social situation outside of our extended family. Because we are close family and he was happy at home,  I didn't see how emotionally and socially unprepared he was until it was too late. Removing the pressure of school frees him to concentrate on his mental and physical health (while working) to prepare him to resume classes again. He seems upbeat about working, so that's a good thing (fingers crossed).[/quote]

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