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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People are weird about divorce, especially women. Women who distance themselves from you, suddenly need to remind you constantly that they are married, act like divorce is contagious- it says a lot more about what’s going on in their lives and the strength of their marriage than it says about you and your friendship with them.

People are also really weird about abuse and addiction. Same for a terminally ill child, mental illness, and special needs kids. 
People don’t know what to say, so they often say nothing. 
Even if they don’t acknowledge it, they are likely subconsciously looking for ways to insulate themselves or convince themselves it can’t happen to them. The idea that bad things happen to good people and that it couldn’t have been predicted or prevented is quite scary. 
Everyone thinks if it was them, they would leave an abusive situation easily and immediately. Unless they or someone they are very close to has experienced it, it seems so black and white to them. 
Most people haven’t been in your shoes, so they may say awkward or hurtful things. You will have to rely on your knowledge of their character whether they meant to be hurtful or if they are just handling a sensitive topic awkwardly. [/quote]

I don't hate them and realize this is what's happening in their minds but I also don't have the patience for that sort of behavior toward me. After being in an abusive situation that involved infidelity on his end along with the abuse the last thing I want is to commit it myself and to have someone else abuse me. I think we just need a break.  Yellow rock for a year.[/quote]

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