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[quote=Anonymous]I grew up with a Dad who chose a career like this. He missed so much. My childhood is gone now, i am middle-aged. My dad is making up for lost time in his retirement now. But you don't get those decades back.

Also, many marriages can survive 15 years like this, maybe, but few can survive 20 or 30. You will get out of your marriage what you put in. If you don't put TIME into relationships, you will one day have no relationship. You may stay married, but the depth of emotional intimacy will wane. That can become an opening for an affair (either emotional or physical) because one or both partners isn't have their emotional needs met within the marriage. They start blaming the other person, instead of looking at the life and choices they have made.

The idea that marriages can survive on a limited amount of "quality time" is a myth. You need quantity as well. You need the dailiness that makes up a relationship, the give-and-take, the time to be in the relaxed presence of your spouse.

At the end of life, what matters entirely is relationships. All the other stuff fades away. You are left with your spouse, your kids, etc. If you live to a very old age, you don't even have your friends or colleagues because they pass away. Eventually, it is your very closest loved ones who will sustain you. If you ignore them for decades, the relationship won't be close. I work as a hospice nurse. I see this every day, as people approach the end of life.

Every wise person, every saint, every sage in every religion has talked about this. It is all about relationships and about love. If you take a job that shortchanges that, you are not going to live as fully as you might have if you had placed people first in your life.

There is no amount of money or career satisfaction that is worth living this way. Take the long view and make some changes to that schedule. Find a way to pursue the work you love without shortchanging the people in your life. You only go around once.

Just my two cents.[/quote]

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