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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Some PPs have good advice, but I wanted to encourage OP (if she is still reading) to not think she needs to lift some giant burden of making sure her child fits into the Indian culture in just a certain way or she will be missing out in life.

This thread alone proves that there are many different ways to "Indian" in this country.

I'm the child of 2 immigrated Indian-Americans married to another of the same. My parents took me back to India frequently so I could be close to my cousins (it worked ), and gave me as Indian of an upbringing as some of these poster mention. But I don't currently eat a lot of traditional foods or wear traditional clothing. That's what works for me now and honestly I don't always feel like I fit into all Indian communities, but I'm middle aged and long past looking for my identity. I know who I am. I don't think you are behind in sharing your DD's heritage with her. Some people will always comment on how you are doing it wrong as they do for me as well. They are looking through their lens. That's okay but that doesn't mean they are correct when it comes to your DD.

If she has family on her father's side, make sure she is close to them and can speak some of the language. Especially for the older family members. Being able to communicate with your loved ones is very important. Take her for a visit to see family if anyone is still in India. Connections with people are what matter in the long term, not what food she eats, etc

[b]She will find her way, because even in the most correctly brought up Indian American households, the child decides as they become an adult how much of their parent's teaching and traditions they want to follow.[/b]
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This is so true. I am one of the PP who was born here to Indian immigrants and married a white man. My family was so traditional and strict. We socialized with Indians every weekend, ate Indian food every night, had long pujas for every religious occasion, went to India every other summer, learned Indian dance, and on and on. It’s hard to overcome the dominant American culture as an influence on a child born and raised in this country.  [/quote]

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