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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There is being grateful and then there is the fact that kids don’t ask to be born. You chose to bring the child into the world, so the flip side of your argument is that as a result of your choice, you were the one responsible for providing her a stable home. That’s how I look at it.  Are you looking for validation? How strange. [/quote]

You're condensing all of parenthood into the act of giving birth. Parenting for 20 years is tough! Perhaps you CFBC folks don't understand. Babies don't sleep and toddlers have tantrums. But teenagers sneak around and then, when you confiscate the bong, they tell you they hate you. (Let's be clear: I'm not totally opposed to weed, but it does impact growing brains, parents do need to set boundaries and, surprise, it turns out teens actually like boundaries.) Then, there's the sheer cost of raising them and sending them to college. It's a weekly or daily test of your logistical abilities, finances, and psychiatric and therapist skills. Yes, of course we sign up for all this when we have kids, and we do it because we love them and without expectation of thanks. But it's still hard work.

Before you attack me, my daughter bought me dinner with her second or third paycheck. My son recently told me he loved the decisions I made about his education. None of these was prompted, and both were completely unexpected. [/quote]

Me again. TLDR: none of us is seeking "validation," as you put it. But it's nice to get recognition for confiscating the bong and driving that ancient car so DC can attend the ivy. I think that's OP's point. [/quote]

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