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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She doesn't actually want to lighten your load, OP.  Or it stresses her out to be alone with the kids.  What she wants is the visit on her terms and to have your attention and you there to manage the kids so it's easy for her.  This is a generational thing, she feels entitled to the Respect For Elders treatment.[/quote]

And you know, I sort of get it. I am 60 and not a grandmother yet, but I have noticed I have less patience for mundane inconveniences. As estrogen lowers, women become a bit more like men:self-interested. [/quote]
[b]There’s a pill for that.[/quote][/b]

I hope it’s one that men can take.[/quote]

NP. My dad and my FIL are great grandfathers who give a lot of time, energy, attention and care to their grandparents, both when DH and/or I are around, and when we’re not. Same with my uncle, who lives nearby and is in his early 70s. Stop categorizing lazy, detached, self-focused behavior as “male” and own up to the fact that you are increasingly low-energy, self-interested, and unwilling to help. Which is fine, but own it, don’t try to act like it’s some men vs. women thing.[/quote]

Glad you’ve had that experience. Check out the new thread in family relationships, I have been sick for 24 hours. OP’s husband wants to put the family dog in the kennel for the weekend because OP is sick. All of DCUM is rife with tales of men’s detached, weaponized incompetence.[/quote]

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