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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For those of you who had parents who were anti-therapy, anti-meds, what made them switch to being ok with it? Forcing my parent to do either “you do this or you’re out” won’t work. Did a trusted doctor get them to do it?[/quote]

In our experience it was framed in such a way that it's a very small dose, nothing like what "the crazies" take. Doctor did not say "the crazies" but that what parent hears. Like you are too special to need a full amount...but it was worked up to full amount.

The problem then becomes when the parent feels better sometimes he wants to get off the meds because he thinks he no longer needs them rather than the meds make him feel better.Sometimes meds need to be increased or changed or new ones added as the brain for lack of a better word erodes. It's so much easier to have the staff at a facility do this then to be the one making sure dad takes his meds or hearing him argue with an aide in your home.

Some people on here make it sound like taking a scared rescue dog into your home and all you need is patience and love and some ways to calm the anxiety. The problem is the aging brain can create some really awful behaviors and the anxiety can turn so obsessive and even into paranoia which is why you want to think long term. If you think he will fade enough he won't care when you move him, I have rarely heard that. They never want to move out. You may want to work with an aging professional if you do go that route. They often do a therapeutic lie like "the house is being painted/fumigated so we need you to live here for a few weeks."There are cases where that happens and the person actually likes it there. Often it takes more time to adjust. Sometimes it's like what happens at daycare. They are happy and adjusted when you aren't there visiting, yet when they see you they share sob stories and guilt trip you for not being with them all the time.

Assisted livings CCRCs, etc aren't perfect, but you can find good ones. [/quote]

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