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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So, I am a geriatric psychologist, and this comes from two places:

1. What he's saying comes from CARING about you. When is the last time he saw how you lived life up close in this much detail? Before you left for college? You were a different person then. An actual CHILD then, who needed parenting. He hasn't adjusted to you being a full grown competent adult.
2.  What he's saying also comes from worrying about what he would do in these situations. He worries what he'd do if he got a flat, if he was walking the dog and got attacked and the dog ran off, if he was out when it was dark and got turned around and lost, if he ate the amount you ate he'd be hungry. It's projection. [/quote]

I think you are likely a troll. The anxiety is common and can move into psychotic territory. They can also lash out physically over time. it needs treatment. This is not like anxiety in a high functioning 20 something. It has a different flavor as the brain starts deteriorating and if I had a dollar for every person who claimed an elderly person was sharp as a tack during decline, I'd be wealthy. The best thing OP can do is stop analyzing and get it treated and under control stat. I made myself ill with the empathizing and using techniques as her anxiety moved into paranoia and psychotic territory. Meds are what make them tolerable. It's not about making someone a zombie. It's about making someone into a decent rational human who isn't trapped in insanity. Nothing you do or say will calm the anxiety when it is elder anxiety.They still think they know better than you do. The last thing you want to do is reinforce it. Meds.[/quote]

How on earth are you reading this as a troll response? It sounds exactly right to me.

OP, you can understand the source of his anxiety to respond kindly without engaging[/quote]

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