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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There are quite a few who come out of it with a much better marriage.  I stayed and we are very happy.  We always had an active sex life and still do.  I guess the type of cheating matters, the circumstances and the quality/love/happiness of the marriage prior to cheating.  We lost ourselves in the kid heavy years and both carried some unexpressed resentment had communication issues—it was largely a byproduct of kids taking all our focus and the different ways we dealt with that.  Spouse was deeply, deeply remorseful and did a ton of work and still lists it as his biggest regret in life.  I’m not sure we would have addressed our issues and just kept chugging along growing more dissatisfied if the infidelity hadn’t cracked everything wide open.  I would never want anyone to go through that because it is absolutely brutal, but we have a beautiful family and are very happy and I’m glad I ultimately didn’t leave.  Of it happens again, I would leave and that is known as well as ways to communicate clearly if one of us is unhappy.[/quote]

This was like my story.  My therapist has said there are way more of us, but it’s a secret thing in society so you only hear about the ones that split up or someone abandoned the family.  It felt better to learn many people face it at some point in a long marriage.  But it’s very isolating to go through because it’s not something you tend to confide in anyone if you plan to reconcile.[/quote]

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