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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So ops wife here and when my uncle first brought up this dog drama to me I asked him what he would prefer: my mom to go up with dogs coming or her to totally bail on going as that’s what I predicted would be her reaction. The dogs apparently were a sticking point for him.  [/quote]

Then your uncle cares more about control than he does about needing break. You don’t get to dictate the terms under which someone does you a favor, and if he’s guardian/PoA than at the end of the day he’s decided this is his responsibility. [/quote]

A favor? Taking care of her own parents for two weeks when her brother and nephew handle it all the other 50 weeks of he year?  :roll: They’re not even her dogs! People can be so G-d self centered.[/quote]

Yes, providing respite care is a favor.  Even if I think (and I do) that MIL is self absorbed, giving up Thanksgiving in her own home is a big ask. Her brother controls all of the finances and so has the ability to pay caregivers, he and his parents have decided that doesn’t work for them. At this point, when it’s 24 hour care and the other parties are refusing all reasonable solutions such as assisted living and hired help, it’s a favor not an obligation.

Once you ask for a favor you cannot set the conditions under which it is carried out unless those conditions matter more than the favor as they do in this case. Uncle in law has the option to have his sister stay with their parents OR he has the option to have everything done his way. He doesn’t have both.[/quote]

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