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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am in a similar situation (mom with dementia, dad died suddenly). All relatives except for my brother have essentially ghosted by mom. My aunt and uncle had known my mom since they all went to college together and lived walking distance from her and did not visit once after my dad died. My mom's own sister died. Dementia is very isolating. it is hard to watch. In fact I am tearing up just typing this. Just know you are not alone.[/quote]

Same here. My MIL has dementia and has essentially been ghosted by everyone. And my MIL was the most wonderful, thoughtful, caring person you can imagine before she had this illness. She was an elementary school teacher for many years, she volunteered widely in the community, she was always doing nice things for others like making meals when someone was sick or visiting older home bound neighbors, etc. She was well loved and had many many friends and a full social calendar. After she got dementia, where are all those people? Her friends of 40+ years who still live very close by…disappeared. They never visit or call or bring meals over like my MIL did countless times for them. Her siblings who she loved dearly and called weekly…never visit or call. Her nieces and nephews who she doted on and sent gifts to for years…haven’t heard from them in years. It’s very sad and lonely to see people just disappear from your life when life gets tough.

I’m sorry OP. I know it hurts. But it sounds like your relatives at least did more for your dad than what my in laws’ relatives and friends have done for her.

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