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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I feel your pain. Our guest space was also our finished basement which is our office space as well. For 2.5 years we were both home all day every day tripping over each other trying to take calls in our open concept space. Then my ILs announced they were coming to visit and stay for 14 days. Not invited. Just announced. They are not great guests in the best of times, but there’s no way we could work from home with 2 additional demanding adults in our already awful wfh space. We suggested they shorten the time and stay with us for the long weekend and we would put them up in a hotel room for 3 additional nights. They flipped. Went off about not being welcome in our home, never having felt welcome (despite us hosting them for weeks at a time pre pandemic), etc. The end result is they have not visited here in almost 3 years now.

So I guess, if it’s alienating your parents to ask them to stay elsewhere, you get to decide if it’s worth it if they just stop visiting. (Do you also need to host your ILs? We ran into that problem for years. 2 long distance sets and barely enough space for one set to stay with us. Also caused huge blow ups over the years.) [/quote]

Do we have the same ILs? Your story sounds so much like my experience.[/quote]

I wish, because then we’d live in the same area and could split the duties of hosting them. Having people in your home who expect to be guests for weeks on end is exhausting enough when life is normal. We haven’t had my parents visit since the pandemic either (and they are generally easy, helpful visitors) so this is not even unique to my ILs, we just can’t have people in our home while we wfh.

Though I’m sorry to hear there are more out there like mine, it’s draining. [/quote]

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