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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My parents live several states away. We bought our house a few years ago and they have typically stayed with us in DC when they visit. We have a large finished basement which is our guest space, it has a bathroom and kitchen, but the space is open-concept and also my office (I WFM every day).

Typically they have stayed with us when they visit. In August, our son's daycare was closed for a week, but it was my busy time with work and we had some personal stuff going on (my husband was making a decision on changing jobs that week), so [b]my parents were coming to babysit my son, and since they were doing us a favor by babysitting[/b], I offered to put them up in a really nice Airbnb in the neighborhood. My mom seemed put-off, not by anything she said - just attitude, can't really articulate it better than that - but they understood that we had a lot going on and a 9 day visit is a lot. They stayed with us over the second weekend they were here since I was using my office space M-Fri and it's hard to use it as a true office when we have guests visiting.

My husband is graduating from law school next spring and I am tentatively planning a celebration for him. I know it will not be relaxing for him if my parents are staying with us for his graduation weekend. I spoke with my parents this morning about the idea and said it'd likely make sense that they stay in the AirBnb that weekend if they visit. My mom again, sounded put-off: "Oh.....okay....... so we can't stay with you?" and I felt weird, but I just said yes, that'd be easier since we have a lot going on that weekend and I wanted to make sure it felt like the weekend was about him, instead of the responsibility of hosting. I got off the phone and realized there'd been no discussion of the finances... are we now expected to pay for the Air Bnb again for my parents because they're not staying with us? [b]We had paid for it for the week they were doing childcare, to be nice[/b], but this was just a regular visit.
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Holy crap.  They came to babysit your son because you were in a bind, and you think you were doing them a favor by paying for the AirBnB you made them stay in?  [/quote]

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