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[quote=Anonymous]When my mom was alive, my parents did whatever we asked and paid their own way. Now that she’s gone, my dad has become pseudo helpless and we pay for everything up front. He gives us bulk amounts of money, which winds up covering what we pay over a period of time.

OP, I hear what your’e saying about having to entertain your parents. Long-term guests (anything more than 3 days) need to be given chores and be a part of the household. If your’e working, ask your parents to start dinner. Give them a grocery list and your credit card and tell them to pick up food. Send them to school to pick up the kids or have them drop the kids off at play dates. You have to stop treating your parents like guests - because they are not. I told my ILs when they first started visiting that they should treat our house like theirs and showed them where food items were, cleaning supplies, etc. You should clean the guest room clean before they arrive, but if they complain about any messes while they’re at your house, point them to the vacuum or mop. Order more takeout, too. If they are going to travel to your DH’s graduation, you should offer them a place to stay, or don’t invite them. I doubt your DH would care whether they showed up or not. Make things easier for yourself since your parents aren’t going to do that for you.

You should also consider building some walls to make a proper office for yourself in the basement. That setup isn’t conducive for what you need. [/quote]

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