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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s very easy to assume a kid just needs discipline but behavior is more complicated than that. All behavior is communication and it’s the parents job to truly listen and understand so you can figure out what is causing it.

My son started having behavior, attention, and mood issues out of nowhere in 3rd grade at the age of 8. We were so upset when we learned about how he was treating teachers and students at school. We discussed every issue and “disciplined” for the incidents. So did the school. Things got worse and our relationship as well as his relationship with teachers deteriorated quickly. I finally sat down, asked lots of questions in a calm, loving, and nonjudgmental way. The counselor at school did the same thing. We started to pick up on themes and did more investigating. We realized that DC was being bullied, that teachers were unintentionally embarrassing him in front of peers when he made mistakes and didn’t understand a new concept, and there was likely a medical issue of some kind because he kept saying he didn’t know why he was doing some of these things and he couldn’t control it. It became clear he was struggling with executive function but doctors didn’t think he had ADHD. After a lot of investigation, we discovered a sleep disorder which was taking a major toll on his executive function and mood. Had I not stopped to listen to him, we would have continued down a path of discipline and kept delaying the treatment that was actually needed. [/quote]

a "sleep disorder"? can you please explain a bit more? [/quote]

My son had obstructive sleep apnea. His breathing was blocked by tonsils and adenoids which resulted in lowered blood oxygen levels and brain arousals more than 100 times a night. That level of sleep fragmentation and blood oxygen issues was causing the problems with executive function and mood. The most common symptom of sleep apnea in kids is behavior issues. [/quote]

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