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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here- no judgement towards people who have a no-shoe policy. We actually also remove our shoes in our home but when guests come over, we never ask them to. Seems forward to me? Whatever- the point is that I had zero issue with taking off my shoes. I wish I had removed that a second time to walk through the kitchen to the front door. I also wish she hadn't complained to someone else about it. Embarrassing and uncomfortable all arouond![/quote]

Troll.

No one has a shoes-off policy for themselves but not the guests. You're really going to have a playdate where your kids have no shoes and the guests have shoes? I've lived in many countries and have seen many things, but not that.

You're just creating a scenario to rile people up.

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Aren’t you silly.
We don’t wear shoes inside the house but I always ask my guests to do what feels comfortable to them. Why do you think this is some big deal?[/quote]

Because I've been on this earth for many decades, known mostly shoe-less households across the world, and NONE of them have one policy for themselves and one policy for guests. It defeats the entire purpose. It suggests that being shoe-less is a something burdensome you cannot ask of a guest, which is ridiculous. Either you do or you don't but you're really sending a mixed message being wishy-washy about it.

The host being gossipy does not absolve you from your own rudeness in walking in her house with shoes, BTW.

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This will sound bad but are you from another country? I could understand your view better if you are.

In the US some people will perceive a shoe removal request as a burden and not terribly polite/hospitable especially if it is along the lines OP said - take them off to walk a few steps through the house. I’m not from a farm or city area and the only person I knew growing up who did no shoes was a friend whose mom was from Japan. They were so strict I was not allowed in the unfinished basement part where shoes were kept even.

We are another house that is mostly (not 100%) no shoes. If we are home for awhile we take them off. If we forget a thing and run back in to get it we leave them on. We do try to mostly not wear them upstairs where the carpets are. Shoes off for play dates. But when grownups come over we never tell them to take shoes off.

My mostly no shoes policy is more about cutting down on the dirt we track in and less about 100% outside germ prevention. [/quote]

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