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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Our kids are in their 30’s married with kids and good jobs and their heads seem to be well screwed on. We didn’t do anything magical but we had/have a very happy marriage and that atmosphere really set a good example. We never argued, didn’t have money issues but we did teach our kids the value of money and hard work and you can’t have one without the other. We prioritized education over sports and we prioritized their activities over ours. We moved a few times and that required a lot of bonding. But like I said nothing magical just creating an environment of love, learning and fun. [/quote]

So in other words.... you were very, very lucky.  You sound very smug.  Not everyone can just do all the things you wrote about.

*I would guess that you had no major health issues that prevented you from working or drained finances.  Also, no major unexpected layoffs.

*Neither of you had any sort of midlife crisis, substance abuse, addiction, etc.  Neither of you cheated.  Not all issues with spouses are obvious from the start, and when you are the receiving spouse, it's not in your control.

*It sounds like both of you are still alive, so, again, no major health issues.

*I would also guess that you also don't have any mental illness in your family, other other issues like ADHD/HFA.

I'll recap your list.  If you want to have well adjusted, functional adults....
1) Stay healthy
2) Stay alive
3) Before getting married, make sure you can predict the future and know that your spouse won't have any issues that could prevent the marriage from being happy and perfect.
4) Do a ton of family research to make sure you have no mental illness or other mental issues in your family, even if they were a generation or so ago when they would not have been diagnosed.

Summary:  Be really, really lucky.[/quote]

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