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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here: I also want to add that I have assured my ex that I would NOT seek any additional child support if the schedule changed and DS spent more time with me, so finances can't be playing any role in my ex's decision/thoughts.  (It really wouldn't be that much extra time anyway, so any hypothetical impact on child support would be negligible, nor would I ever want to have that fight for just 9 more months of CS).

I'm only raising this because sometimes people say that parents want more time with the kid to get more money, or parents don't want to lose time because then they'll have to pay more money, etc.
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How much extra child support do you think you'd get by him losing two days a  month?  You already have full custody.  It does sound like there is more to this.[/quote]

I already said any impact would be negligible, which is why I explained I would never seek more child support.

I was trying to preempt anyone accusing me of wanting to get more money, or accusing my ex of not wanting to pay more money.  I'm saying this isn't a factor, at all.  CS hasn't changed in over 4 years, even when I was laid off, and I don't care at this point.  It isn't worth the fight.[/quote]

It sounds like this really is about more, possibly money.  You aren't going to get a huge amount of child support extra for those two days a month.  It does sound like a big factor as you are the one raising child support.

The issue is Dad has 4 days a month with his child.  You are now at best reducing it to two days, possibly none.  He wants to be a father and you're not supporting it.  Come up with an alternative schedule so he keeps his 4 days a month.[/quote]

Good grief.  I've said several times now.  This is not about money, at all.  I do not want more CS, nor do I expect it, nor would I even take it if it was offered to me.  It. Isn't. A. Factor.  Sorry for preemptively trying to clarify that.  I'm sorry I even mentioned it.  I just didn't want to be accused of trying to get more money, as moms so frequently are on these boards.

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Then, tell your son, this is the schedule, we are sticking to it but if something comes up, like a dance or test or something, we will ask Dad to switch weekends and be done with it.  You are the parent.  You do not debate this.[/quote]

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