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[quote=Anonymous]Op there is no easy answer here but I would start with trying to connect with your son rather than ice him out. You all fighting about this will get you no where. Make it your goal to better understand him and what is driving this. Try to connect and come to a place where you all can discuss things, where he trusts you’re not against him in this but want to work with him to figure it out. Then ask him to work with you to figure out what would be a reasonable approach to this. Involve him in it, don’t come down on him like he needs to pay rent as punishment but have him help you come up with a reasonable plan. If he wants to be an adult I do think he needs to contribute in some ways or have a plan with some of his money etc. If you do decide as a family that he should contribute money, you may want to consider saving that without telling him and give it back to him when he hopefully returns to school next year.

Try to figure out why this is happening beyond just oh he’s blinded by money and accusing him of that. There is likely more behind it because frankly most kids like to do what their friends are doing (going back to school) so usually there are multiple factors here making him want this different type of traveling. You’ve got to help him get down to what that is - he might not know yet but if you try to connect rather than punish you’re more likely to have success figuring it out as a family [/quote]

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