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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was actually going to post about a similar subject because of an incident today at work…

I am probably considered above average attractive and it has created some problems for me especially in the work environment.

Female coworkers are not friendly towards me. I have to work extra hard to establish a friendship. I was told once by a current work friend/colleague, that she originally thought I gave off an attitude of being "better" than others. I, 100% hand on the bible honestly do not feel that way whatsoever.  I do find it hard to believe that it was the 'real' reason why women were often cool towards me despite my efforts to establish a connection. I don’t know if it came from a place of jealousy or intimidation or what but I don’t believe I ever gave off that impression bc I do not feel that way in any shape or form. I tend to believe that I had to try harder with females to show that I was a kind person despite my “above average” physical appearance. Its like women think I must automatically be a bitch and/or mistrustful bc of my looks. Whereas a  female who may be physically average or below average does not have to try as hard to “prove” their character. (and as a side note, I will say that not ALL women have these sentiments, but many do)

It's difficult with men as well in the work environment. I find while I may be invited to client related activities and lunches and happy hours more often than other females in my office, I find that I have to work extra hard at being taken seriously. I am in no way a ditz or stupid, I have a higher ed degree from a reputable university, but my ideas and statements aren’t given the same credibility. My male counterparts’ suggestions tend to be given a little more consideration and validation than mine do. Yes, sometimes because they are better but often times I get the impression that I am just that pretty girl who they don’t pay to think strategically.

What’s helped me to deal with this all is that I do not think that any of these attitudes are in a malicious fashion or even deliberate. Its something that’s programmed in our upbringing, our culture and our society.

Undoubtedly I will get lots of comments about “oooh poor pretty girl” and “you do sound like you’re coming off as haughty” but this is truly my take on the situation and some of the discrimination I have faced.

Just my two cents.
[/quote] [b]Well, at least you have your looks[/b].[/quote]

Until they fade[/quote]

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