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[quote=Anonymous]I do not believe that anyone is from a "perfect" family. Even if parents were "perfect" (which is impossible at least in the eyes of their offspring) kids might not have been.
You might think I am from that super great family where I got all the support, and I am, in many ways. I have secure attachment personality and appear to come from that perfect family. 
But, to answer your question, I have discouraged my kids from getting enmeshed in friendships with people from messed families that are clearly messed up themselves. I did not do this when they were young kids, but now as young adults and when they were teens it is trying to have such friends. As my young adult kids have given them every chance, these friends are either narcissist's, abusive, or trying to the very core of their beings. So just as you want the best for yourself, so do I for myself and my kids.
Some of these "friends" have abused my dd, one told her that she needs to get as low as she can as she is worthless, and now my young adult DD is suffering and recovering from that abuse bcs she did not take my advice. Just as her friend did not deserve to be treated as she wa by her family, my DD did not deserve to be treated and abused by that friend.
Plenty of people rise above and are not abusive, narcissists because that is how they grew up. So, yes, I have no patience for such individuals, you do not deserve special treatment bcs of your background and you do not deserve for people like me and my kids to give you more leeway and extra chances.
Plenty of people of terrible families do not grow up to become crappy friends and abuse their own friends. So what is your excuse now that you are a grow up?[/quote]

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