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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Can I ask...

Why are you paying him alimony? Uneven income? Still, sounds particularly wrong  here based on his history.

Yeah,  I know I didn't answer your question.  I think  your friends really are trying to find a bright spot for you. Especially in light of YOU paying HIM. What they want to say is " How did that happen?" But they know  they cannot, so this is the next best thing.  [/quote]

OP here -

Yes, I earn significantly more. I too think it's crazy that I'm paying a man who literally spent his entire pay check on beer and bourbon and a variety of other substances for many years alimony, but that's the way the cards were dealt. Ample evidence including personal accounts, receipts, failed interventions (two), and a variety of other hard evidence that drinking was a problem as was abuse. But I've run out of money to fight it and at this point, paying alimony for three years is cheaper than trying to fight.

But still, the guy got 50% of my retirement savings, 50% of the house we'll need to sell, etc.  Meanwhile I have two kids to support. Thank you, Maryland.

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