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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Honestly I’d get him contacts and sign him up for more sports if he wants to do them. If he’s willing to put in the work of training hard for sports so he can be as good as those boys, let him. [/quote]

If only it were that easy. Some kids just can't do it. Lots of kids have developmental coordination disorders or hypotonia, etc. etc. These are "hidden disabilities," and kids like this are often wrongly accused of "not trying" when really they are working harder than the naturals and failing spectacularly and getting bullied for it. The attitude that "if he’s willing to put in the work of training hard for sports so he can be as good as those boys," is actually really harmful, because it isn't always true and wrongfully suggests these kids aren't working hard.[/quote]

Thank you! I’m so happy you posted this. My son, 12, has hypotonia. Sports aren’t enjoyable for him and are hard. It’s really difficult as a parent seeing all the other boys advance and do fun team sports while he is left behind. It has imalcted him socially. [/quote]
I feel for your boys, but I’d note that from OP’s description her son is athletic and coordinated, just small and fearful of contact, so it sounds like many sports are on the table.  I recommend running as a sport and hobby for kids who are not able to excel in other sports. You can always improve your times and distance and enjoy the benefits of feeling strong and fit. [/quote]

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