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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]..and being a single mom in your 20s is good because you will have the energy for them, kudos to you for trying to find the right way...ignore the mean posters, listen to the kind ones.[/quote]

It is not "mean" to tell the OP that she needs to put her kids first, which means getting herself tested for STDs yesterday; getting reliable birth control while also learning to be much more particular about having sex with men she's known for mere weeks; and not bringing home or introducing men whom she has recently met. Those things all protect her children  by keeping her healthy, teaching her to set some real boundaries, and keeping strangers out of her [u]and her kids'[/u] lives. OP is very, very focused on having sex yet has not gotten onto reliable BC and seems to think it's fine to bounce back into bed with her ex (though to her credit, she says she will stop that) or have sex with men who are pretty much strangers. She's putting sex ahead of her own health, physical and mental, and ahead of her kids' long-term need for a healthy mother who does not have an STD or an "oops" sibling.

Oh, and [b]to the OP -- you ARE aware, I hope, that it may be extremely difficult and expensive, if not impossible, to get a safe abortion in much of this country, very soon?[/b] If you end up pregnant you may not be able to have an abortion easily. You may have to travel to another state to get one (if you even live where there is an adjoining state with abortions --you might have to fly somewhere to get one). Line up good last-minute child care providers for your kids in case you have to leave the state to find an abortion provider. I am not exaggerating or messing with you, OP. If you have in the back of your mind, "Well, if I really needed to I could get an abortion if I don't get Plan B in time" -- read the news. It does apply to you. Exercise more caution so you don't end up as another woman with a child she never planned to have, or as another woman who is injured by a crappy self-induced abortion. See why you need much better birth control, OP? By the way, even things like birth control and Plan B are under attack in some states. You really need to understand how all that could affect you. [/quote]

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