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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Everytime this comes up on boards it is like, drama. I feel like the subtlety between, 'I will not promise to keep your confidence from someone with whom I don't share secrets' and 'I do not gossip with my husband about my friends' is lost.

I am not telling my husband all about my friend's intimate details, but I would never ever agree to keep a secret from my spouse. I just don't believe in making deception agreed upon. If my husband asked me directly about something, I would tell him. If something came up that impacted him or impacted US, I would tell him (obviously very unlikely if this is some thing with friends). So people say its codependant but it isn't like I'm actually telling him anything. I just refuse to codify a culture of secrecy between us. [/quote]
What?? It’s not a secret, it’s keeping a confidence.
my husband: ‘What’s going on with your friend Dana what were you two talking about?’
Me:  ‘oh she’s going through something but you know it’s private’
My husband: ‘ oh, ok’
Because he’s a grown ass man who has confidences that he keeps with siblings or parents or friends and it’s none of my damn business because it has nothing to do with me or my marriage or my family or my safety.

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