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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here, yes, you are spot on. My kid has a full dance card. We feel very lucky to have found some close friends for him and ourselves.

SIL is not enjoyable to be around and her kids can be a pain. My son even mentioned the other day that he thought his older cousin was “too rough.”[/quote]

Ok, ok. Jesus. We get it. You don’t like SIL and you are a petty grudge holder. And you are feeling smug and superior now that your life is full and secure. You recognize that annoying SIL and her annoying kids are feeling needy and your natural reaction is to withhold. You’re well within your rights to do so, but own your behavior in all this. If you are still ticking off offenses SIL has committed in your mind from years ago, well maybe it’s time for a little honesty: “Sue, I am feeling burdened and think I better come clean because I’d genuinely like for us to be friendly. Of course I’d love for DD to grow up knowing her cousins. And I’m sure moving and having to create new circles is friends has been hard.  But I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t still bothered by some of the things you’ve said and done over the years. So, I guess I’m having a hard time adjusting to this new arrangement where we live near one another and you want to get together a lot more often. Can we have a heart to heart?  I know there’s risk of estrangement with too much honesty among family members, but I think we should try.”  And then just get it all out on the table.

Is she a single mom?[/quote]

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