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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If your SILs have partners/significant others, are they expected to contribute to the care of your MIL? If not, tell the SILs to pound sand, particularly how unsupportive they were when you were dealing with your parents’ illnesses and subsequent deaths.[/quote]

This right here.

Another angle: “I will be supporting DH in his role as a primary caregiver. I will not be a primary caregiver. You need to keep in mind my role as you and DH discuss long-term options.”[/quote]

But OP has already said the SIL’s spouse is on the chart and the other SIL does not have one. OP is the only one not participating and her husband is doing only half of the time everyone else does. I mean their choice but they are really not doing their share. [/quote]

Here’s what: SIL’s husband might have been either asked and said yes or voluntold and went along with it.

If DH wants OP’s help, he needs to ASK and they need to get on the same page with what role she would like to play.

I would 100% help my ILs but it would not be the same level of responsibility as my husband. But by the way, OP watching the kids all day on a Saturday while her husband goes to visit his mom, or OP doing dinner/watching the kids all evening and putting them to bed while DH is taking care of his mom on a weeknight *IS* OP helping the overall situation.[/quote]

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