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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Forgot to add, those kids' passports go in a safe deposit box yesterday. When he realizes you won't be intimidated and this is going to cost him he'll get mad. Just be prepared for that.[/quote]

NP. This.

OP, you mentioned in an earlier response that he insisted recently on visiting the kids when you didn't expect/want him to, and that you have some concern he could take them to his home country without your permission. I would give that more priority than I think you're giving it here -- you're focused (understandably so!) on child support and the ins and outs of what to do legally re: CS, but you've only mentioned in passing the possibility of his simply taking the kids overseas and doing a parental kidnapping. There are old threads on DCUM with advice for parents who are in the situation of fearing the ex might take the kids to a home country and never bring them back. Search some of those old threads or better yet, get your lawyer to find out ASAP what steps you need to take to ensure your kids can't be removed from the US just on his say-so. Securing their passports is job one, like the PP notes.

It's possible that formalizing CS and visitation against his will is going to make him angry. I'd be concerned that if you move forward legally for forma CS, he might decide it's easier just to take the kids on a "trip" to his home country. I know he has ties here in the US but this would still eat at me. I am NOT saying to drop the formal, legal proceedings -- he should have to pay CS and it should be legally arranged! But I'd simultaneously take whatever steps you must to prevent his taking the kids.[/quote]

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