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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't think this is abusive.  It's just totally unnecessary and not good parenting.[/quote]
+1. Also, OPs post is dripping with resentment so it’s hard to get a read on whether he’s just making bad swing-and-a-miss dad jokes or actually being sincere.[/quote]

You wouldn’t resent someone who repeatedly treats you and your kids like this? [/quote]
Would the husband be wrong for resenting and rejecting guilt trips from someone who catastrophizes about shutting windows in FEBRUARY as abuse?[/quote]
You seem really incapable of reading comprehension.

The problem wasn't the closing of windows. The problem was the slamming them shut and then threatening to move out of the house in front of a little kid, who clearly took it seriously.[/quote]
You seem intent on indulging the children (tweens, not “little kids”) in the same catastrophizing they have learned from their mother, whereas the father is not. It’s a wreck on all sides.[/quote]

Wait how are a 10 and 7 year old tweens??? 7 year olds are in 1st/2nd grade, 10 year olds are in 4th/5th. I really don’t think tween starts til about age 11. Anyway. Their kids are young. OP is not “indulging” them in catastrophizing here. She’s validating their normal emotional reactions to being manipulated and shamed (also known as emotional abuse) by their father. She’s being supportive toward them when they rightfully feel undermined and shamed by their other parent.[/quote]

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