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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I don't have any opinions on whether your DH is emotionally abusive or not.  But I am not clear what you were trying to do by showing him articles online to "prove" that he is abusive. Were you trying to shame him into better behavior? That's unlikely to work.
I can tell that you have contempt for your DH, which is a clear sign the marriage is over and you no longer love him.[/quote]

It was to try to help him understand that what he does is a form of abuse. He doesn't understand why when he says mean or inappropriate comments that it upsets the kids. He says he's not responsible for managing their feelings and emotions.

I thought that if he saw the evidence and facts, he'd be open to change and going to therapy. Either solo or couples therapy. He's not, though.

I love him but I'm no longer in love with him as I used to be. [/quote]

You probably hurt his pride because that is not how he sees himself.  Again, I am not saying you are wrong, but you are not taking action in such a way to get the outcome you want.  Maybe he is a jerk and this is unsalvageable.  But if you want to salvage this, you need to take a different course of action.  I would start with going to marriage therapy by yourself.  Tell him you are open to him coming, but if not then you will go alone.
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