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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Long story short, my ex is on the opposite coast and we divorced last year. We were married overseas (his home country) 17 years ago and he sent me the divorce documents from that country which don't even mention our two children. In the meantime, I have given him numerous warnings that I am petitioning for court orders here- most importantly to establish custody of our children, and monthly child support payments, obligations re: life insurance, etc, are included. He has until Friday to respond before my lawyer files in the state I live in. I have offered him a reduction in CS and basically he can see the kids whenever he wants. His response has been mainly "why do we have to get courts and lawyers involved," and an offer to split the bills with me if I send him receipts for the extracurriculars and private school. How do I even respond to this? Part of me feels like I should just let the lawyer file and deal with it that way, but it would really be cheaper for all involved and easier if he'd agree to my reasonable terms now... I think he may think a lawyer can get him out of paying monthly CS at all? [/quote]

Tell him he’s right and then mediate. Tell him you’ll get the documents ready and mediator. Have your lawyer draft them and review them. Fill in mediator on the international and bicoastal aspect of things plus custody discussed, you have full custody and he can see kids whenever he likes. He must seek approval for taking them out if the country, given HIS multi citizenship.

And as you both already know, you file for divorce where you and the kids live. Not where you got married 17 years ago for the state he moved solo during separation or before.[/quote]

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