Reply to How do "cool kids" become "cool"?

Forum Index » Elementary School-Aged Kids

Reply to "How do "cool kids" become "cool"?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DS is in 4th and there is definitely a cool group, particularly for girls. For the girls, it has nothing to do with their parents or social engineering. They're the girls who appear to be aware of their looks (not in a sexual or precocious way or anything but in more a groomed fashion way) sooner and have grasped group dynamic skills faster. I think it's mainly the group dynamics skills. I personally was late bloomer to those skills and it showed.

For the boys, it's mainly the sports bros. My own DS is not a sports bro but he's totally fine anyway.

While I am aware of this through his teacher and the school counselor (DS has ADHD and has contact with her), we're not at all concerned with it. It's all good.[/quote]
This is what we have seen too, if we are talking about popular/alpha kids, which I think is a bit different from both “cool” and “well liked” kids. By 4th grade, there were a group of girls with good social skills focused on looks and group dynamics. This group picked the boys they wanted to spend time with, usually good-looking athletic ones, but sometimes also outgoing boys who were entertaining to be around. The boys often seemed pretty clueless about this dynamic. We were completely mystified in late ES and early MS when random girls would decide to ride the bus home with our son to hang out. He never initiated any of these meetups. We were very thankful to have a full time nanny at that point to make sure nothing but TV watching and homework happened.

I don’t think DS independently sought out girls he was interested in until HS. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics