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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OK i am SHOCKED at the consensus of the replies b/c I strongly disagree. Her rent has not changed...if you were cool playing the rent for a 25 year old, you can't pull it back to 50% b/c she has a BF/Roommate.

Do you know that he's not contributing in other ways? [b]Maybe he's covering all their "going out" expenses [/b]or something else, maybe she uses his car, who knows. It doesn't impact your bills, which you were comfortable with when she was single or casually dating. I see this as 100% you trying to control your 25 yr olds' dating life b/c you don't like the BF. [b]They may wind up married,[/b] who can know, but making her DEPENDENT on the relationship by cutting the living expenses by 50% only makes them staying together more likely. If you want to keep this relationship strong, really think carefully about how much you meddle and what strings you add to financial support. I see you as wanting to control an outcome that has nothing to really do with you, which is manipulation.

I agree with the other posters that if you were seeing grocery stores on the credit card bill and the food costs have doubled, that is totally fair game to discuss with her. [/quote]

Did you read the OP?

"Maybe he's covering all their "going out" expenses"--OP stated that the boyfriend "goes out" without the daughter.

"They may wind up married" --Lol, this guy is never going to marry OP's daughter.

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Did you read OP? Everything you list is from the parent of the DD’s “best friend’s” daughter. OP does not have a great relationship with her DD and has no clue what is happening…but she knows her 25 year old daughter is unable to say no to a boy :roll: [/quote]

Well, I don't see why the best friend would have any reason to lie to her parents.   Obviously the friend is concerned enough to say something to her own parents--and the parents were concerned enough to say something OP.   [/quote]

[b]So when you were 25 you talked to your parents about your “best friend’s” living situation and how she was being used by her boyfriend? [/b]Sure. That parent sticking her nose in where is does not belong all you have to know about this situation. What exactly is “concerning”?  A 25 year old woman living with her boyfriend …lol.

More concerning is the believe that every women is a helpless womanchild being taken advantage of by some guy. [/quote]

No I sure didn't!   That's exactly the point.   It's highly unusual for a friend to be that concerned that she would mention it her own parents, and that the parents would also see it as a big enough issue to mention it to OP.

Besides, when I was 25 I was already married with a child and owned a home.  My parents weren't paying a dime for my living expenses.[/quote]

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