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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Small events = separate
Big events = together, with warning

If you want to enjoy your child's first birthday with wonderful memories, do it separately.

There is NO WAY that the anger and tension between two people will make for a fun gathering. It will be felt by all even if they outwardly behave. Including your child who will pick up on that tension.

If it is a bigger event with more people, then include both but make it clear that any badmouthing or hostility will be grounds for banishment. 
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Yes this.  As a child in similar circumstance, but more complicated since both parents have been remarried more than once (I have a couple sets of ex- bonus parents), it is extremely uncomfortable for me to have all of them together if it is just them and us.  Very tense and awkward.  Forced conversation and niceties.  I want to enjoy holidays and the firsts (birthdays, Christmas, etc) of my children.  So I celebrate separately- rotating mostly instead of trying to celebrate 3+ times for every occasion.  Adults have consequences for their divorces and this is one of them[/quote]

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