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[quote=Anonymous]My DH and I don't have kids-we're in our late 40's. I agonized for years and years about whether or not to have kids-my DH didn't have an opinion so the decision fell to me. Financially and for mental health reasons (I have lifelong depression and anxiety) I decided not to. If we had had a child I would have wanted to be a SAHM for a few years but we would not have been able to afford it. I couldn't see myself managing a career and parenting a baby or small child effectively. I would have been stressed and miserable. Plus I was very, very concerned about going off my antidepressant while pregnant or staying on it and having it negatively impact my child in some way (I know it's rare but it happens). We looked into adopting an older child from foster care but ultimately neither of us wanted to do it badly enough to pursue it.

Not having children was the right decision for us and I don't regret it but if the circumstances were different I would have. Sometimes I feel sad that I don't have a child but to be honest it's less about having the child/being a parent and more about feeling like I have missed out on a big aspect of life. But I don't regret the decision not to have a child/children. I do regret the fact that it took years and years to come to that conclusion-I wasted a lot of time obsessing, agonizing and trying to talk myself into having a child when I knew given the circumstances it wouldn't have been the right decision. [/quote]

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