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[quote=Anonymous]It’s easy to have this mindset of wanting a lot of kids and being able to care for a lot of kids when your kids are so little and adorable and your postpartum hormones are speaking to you and your kids are fine w going along w whatever works for you for the most part bc they’re too little to have or voice their opinions or interests.

I have kids in elementary and preschool and let me tell you it gets harder as kids get older. Bigger kids, bigger problems, as they say. They have opinions, they have interests, they have lives outside the home. You’ll likely wind up spending a lot of time taking them all over for activities/extra curriculars, they will have friends and need help navigating social lives, they’ll have homework, they’ll have issues at school they need help with, they probably won’t always be happy to share a room and hang out w their siblings. They become their own people. Right now, their whole world is focused on you: their parents, their family unit. So it’s easier for you to manage them. It won’t always be that way. They’ll grow up and want different things and not be content to play at home w their siblings and parents all the time.

Life gets a lot harder as a parent once your kids get older and I know it’ll only continue getting harder in many ways once they’re pre-teens and teens.

Also, a PP is right that kids hate moving. Believe me. We moved last summer to a bigger house in a great neighborhood we love but it’s been a TOUGH adjustment for our kids. So renting and possibly moving around often doesn’t sound great for kids. Again, it’s probably fine when they’re really little and have a short memory and a life centered only on their family unit but it gets harder as they’re in school, have friends, know the neighbors, care about where they live.

All that said, I think you should do what you feel is best. Kids are wonderful and in an ideal world I’d have 4-5 of them too. But it’s not very practical in the real world.[/quote]

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