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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have 3 kids, and would love a 4th, but I’m leaning towards not. My main reasons are that I think the benefit of the 4th kid is mostly for me (and my DH), and less of a benefit for my 3 kids now. If we don’t have a 4th there is more space in our house for them, more individual attention from parents, more money for my kids to do activities and to help pay for college/grad school, we’ll have more $ to travel and will be able to take cooler trips sooner, etc etc. My kids already have two siblings, so it’s not like they are missing out on that if we decide to have a 4th. Having a 4th seems like a purely selfish decision by the parents who love having a new baby and enjoy getting to know another new person.  I still love the idea of a 4th, but I can’t get past the idea that it really isn’t what is best for my existing children. [/quote]

OP here. I agree with you! I honestly feel this too. Like, we have everything our children need. Oldest is in free PreK, this fall the 2nd will also be, and then we have the baby to raise... They have each other and they're happy. The selfish aspect is that we are baby crazy and thi k our babies are the most adorable things in the world. LOL.
I am increasingly leaning towards just stopping at 3. It will be kind of a relief when we just make that decision, and I will feel more mentally ready to focus on myself again (it may sound weird to some, but knowing I'd have more kids definitely made me feel like there wasn't much of a point in really getting back in shape before the next one).

Then I just have to convince DH to get a vasectomy. That will likely be another post, LOL!!! (I keep bringing it up and he kind of brushes it off... But if he doesn't do something soon we could end up with Baby #4 no matter what we decide!!!)[/quote]

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